QUANTUM PSYCHOLOGY APPROACH
Quantum Psychology is the science of SELF and studies the relationship between the mind and matter (external reality). By looking at how our un-conscious and sub-conscious minds effect our conscious mind, we can trace the faulty pattern of thought directly to the difficulties that we experience in our lives, such as, painful relationships, financial struggle and weakened health.
Our thoughts become our reality. When we focus on negative, lack of and painful past experiences we create these same cycles of experiences in our lives. These cycles are not cycles of punishment, rather opportunities to heal past hurts so we no longer have to attract them into our lives.
In our brains, there are areas called the Amygdalae (plural), there is one in each hemisphere of the brain in the temporal region. These amygdalae are known for housing traumatic and painful events and emotions. This is what I call our "PTSD function". All humans suffer from PTSD to some degree, some more than others, but it is these traumatic and painful events early in our lives that create the cycles of patterns that we experience over and over.
The goal is to move the traumatic and painful experience out of the PTSD function and into a safe house where the emotions and memories no longer create patterns of experiences. This "safe house" is called the Hippocampus and it is located behind the amygdalae in the center of your brain. We move these painful memories out of the amygdalae and into the hippocampus by illuminating the traumatic experience, looking it square in the eye and healing it. Many people are afraid of looking these painful memories and experiences in the eye and resort to apathy actives in order to ignore and not deal with them.
Apathetic actives can include: drugs (especially marijuana) , alcohol, sex, excessive exercise, over attachment to pets and children, video games, excessive working, etc. Even those who do not recall a traumatic or painful childhood still have experiences and events that have created a negative cycle of patterns in their lives. Whether it was an overly permissive mother, a father who was emotionally unavailable or even a basic shaming early in life, there still can be cycles of patterns that stem from those deficiencies in childhood.
How is this developed?
These early childhood woundings are stored in our amygdalae when we are young, this is why children are seen as resilient. The "traumatic" experience (whatever it may be) is over-whelming for our young minds and as a survival mechanism, our psyche will absorb these experiences into the amygdalae so that we may process them at a later time when our minds can handle the experience. Along with these "traumatic" experiences, any associations will also get absorbed into the amygdalae. If at the time of the "trauma" you were taking part in a specific activity, eating a specific food, or interacting with a specific type of person, these things will more than likely get absorbed along with the experience. This cycles through your life as aversions to certain people, foods and activities.
When these aversions are triggered, our minds create a firewall system to protect us from the original trauma. These firewalls will appear as apathetic behaviors such as excessive eating, drinking, etc. (GLUTTONY), or addictions to sex (LUST), or excessive tiredness, medication or drugs (SLOTH), uncontrollable rage (ANGER), jealousy of others (ENVY), or depending on the faulty belief systems of the parents, the child could develop narcissist personality traits (PRIDE), or the lack of self worth can developed into an over importance of material things (GREED). These are also known as the Seven Deadly Sins in the more religious doctrines, but they perfectly explain the apathetic behaviors of avoidance of these internal childhood woundings from a more psychological/biological perspective.
These patterns can also be passed down from parent to child in what I call viral patterns. These are faulty beliefs, thought systems and coping methods that are conditioned into the child from the parent, most of the time unknowingly. These faulty thoughts and beliefs are then repeated generation after generation in what I call Genetic Inheritance. The passing of these dysfunctional belief/thought systems from one generation to the next contributes to the "genetic inheritance" of illness, disease , addictions, as well as relationship and money issues, that can be explained from a more quantum physics perspective.
How is this cultivated in our adult lives?
By the time we reach adulthood, the amygdalae functions that once protected us now becomes the thing that blocks us, hurts us and keeps us stuck in a life of lack. These traumatic emotions and memories are not meant to disappear forever, just long enough for our minds to mature so that we can deal with them. Most people ignore, repress and create over these emotions and memories in order to not have to deal with them, but what happens when we do that? Have you ever had a tooth ache that you ignored or squeaky brakes that you neglected to get checked out? What was the result of that? Probably a pulled tooth and a brake replacement, if I had to guess. The same goes for repressed emotions and memories. The longer you ignore them, the worse they will get and the more cycles of similar experiences you will endure.
Though the initial traumatic experience is hiding in the depths of your mind, the external display of the pattern will be manifested and experienced until you are forced to go back to the initial trauma and heal it. This is why women who had emotionally unavailable fathers subconsciously choose romantic partners who end up being just like their dad or men who had over bearing mothers subconsciously attract the same type of women into their lives. Each experience that triggers these "traumas" are just cycles of opportunity to heal and move them in to the hippocampus region of our brain. Transfiguring the perception of the experience from a trauma to a lesson is where the healing occurs. The goal is to completely understand the significance of the experience and how, while it was painful, it actually was the perfect tool for growing you as a person, a soul and ultimately your life purpose. By changing your thinking, you change your reality.
When we take the time to work on ourselves, to really dig out that which haunts our very lives, to heal past wounds that we hide away and ignore, and shift our perceptions of these experiences, only then can our lives really be allowed to come into fruition. Through conscious awareness of our traumatic experiences, true healing and understanding of why we attracted them into our lives, we can transform them into our greatest teachers and a catalyst into bigger and better experiences.